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1. There is something inside a person that prevents them doing, or being what they want, (a phobia, an anxiety), or compels them to do something they don't want, (smoking, overeating).
2. What it is preventing achievement of their apparently simple goal is a program formed at an earlier stage of their life. This is still running at a subconscious level, and has a level of emotion attached to it. The symptom represents the person's best attempt to deal with the experience which occurred in the past.
3. Because at a subconscious level, the person believes the symptom is still the best way to help them deal with their problem, it continues.
4. With NLP a first step could be identifying specifically and in positive terms what outcome the person wants. A person coming to give up smoking, may after discussion find in fact they want confidence. By working at providing the client with confidence the smoking will disappear by itself. Many people will say "come on don't get all deep with me, I just want to give up smoking......Zap me!" The trouble with such an approach is that even when the person gives up smoking, as they will in many cases, the underlying cause has not been dealt with. What will often happen in this hypothetical case is the lack of confidence will find another way of expressing itself. The person now even though they are free from smoking will start to overeat, develop depressive symptoms, or become uncharacteristically aggressive. Finally with such a "quickie" approach it is much more likely that the symptoms will return after quite a short period of time, especially if the person is subject to stressful events.
5. The next step could be to define exactly what the specifics of the symptom are. Such self awareness helps the person understand exactly what needs to change....A thought? A behaviour? An emotion? An internal voice? An internal picture? Etc. Very often at this step in NLP events are recalled which have a direct bearing upon the symptom, and fresh insights, and understandings are gained. NLP stresses an archaeological approach which digs up the past is not necessary. Focusing on our present experience and where we wish to go is quite sufficient to modify or change our filtering and patterning so as to produce a new experience and thus new, positive and supportive beliefs which take us effortlessly to our goal.
6. Moving from where you are to where you wish to be can be done in many ways. For example in the hypnotic state one can examine how the symptomatic behaviour is helping the person. Our hypothetical smoker may say to themselves " if I smoke a cigarette, people will accept me". Such internal beliefs can be modified under hypnosis, so the person can come to the realisation that there are many other ways by which they can become equally acceptable to others. Maybe at an earlier age the person, during teenage years lacked confidence, and felt smoking was the only way they could find acceptance, and from there confidence. As an adult, and in the hypnotic state many of their achievements and positive qualities could be pointed out as an alternative resource for confidence boosting. When this is done in the hypnotic state it has the effect of "taking root" much more effectively compared with when people are complimented in a fully awake state. Not only will a person be more susceptible to focusing on their positive qualities in the future, but conversely if the dangers of smoking are pointed out to them in the hypnotic state, they will find an aversion developing based upon the newly formed patterning running at a subconscious level, consistently indicating to them the health hazards of smoking.
7. Using this format over the last 10 years Achieving Lives has helped hundreds of people achieve their outcomes and improve the quality of their lives. |
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